My dear Grandpa Thomas "The Great" passed away peacefully in India on 20th March 2020. He was an extraordinary man of the world and achieved so much during his 97 years that I could never sum up, and
still sharp as a whip right to the end! His determination, education and passion allowed his children and grandchildren to have all the opportunities they could want in life.
We are so upset your huge family scattered all over the earth cant be with you in India to give you the send off you deserve during these crazy times. However your legacy will live on through all the
generations.
RIP Appachan, we love and miss you ❤
#2
Jake Thomas(Friday, 03 April 2020 21:57)
Dad,
You are a force of nature!
Your impact is far and wide.
You stood for what was right and what made sense.
Never compromised.
And that twinkle in your eye says it all: always ready to engage.
You were a good husband, caring for Mom when she needed you most.
And you were a good father, bringing us to where we are today.
We could not be more proud of you, Dad
#3
Susan(Saturday, 04 April 2020 16:13)
While growing up I remember seeing this handy dandy tool kit that had been brought from America. It was no ordinary tool kit and Dad just loved his tools. We knew we could count on him to fix just
about anything, a broken light fixture, the hairdryer that whined or to Super Glue the sole back on to the shoe. Now as I look back I see that he approached life with the same “Mr. Fixit “ attitude.
He had a “Life Toolkit” filled with confidence, discipline, knowledge and wisdom. He faced the problems in his life with a winning attitude. He even relished being called upon by colleagues,
neighbors, friends, and the homeowners association to help solve their problems. I can add that he was the one and the only expert, there was no room for anyone else!
Dad, we will miss you but we hope that you will guide us along with the wisdom of your words and the power of your actions.
#4
Aaron Thomas Joseph(Saturday, 04 April 2020 16:20)
Appachen,
You are an inspiration to all of the Kandathil family. Whether it be your extremely sharp wit, your excellent memory that will certainly outlast you, your unfathomable desire to provide an answer,
your ability to question everything respectfully, your kind heart, your unrelenting healthy walking & eating routines. We all would be so lucky to have these qualities, and lead the life you did
with so much accomplishment.
Thank you for everything you did for Ammachy, Mom, Uncle Jacob, Auntie Minnie, and Uncle Tom. Your legacy lives on in them and they have kept you in heart and mind.
I am proud to be your grandson.
#5
Natasha(Saturday, 04 April 2020 16:50)
My dearest Grandpa passed away at the ripe old age of 97. He lived such a long and fruitful life through which he impacted so many people. Being based in India, and with our family spread around the
globe, we were unfortunately unable to travel to India to say our goodbyes to him during these extremely tough times... However technology has a wonderful way of pulling us all together. I am very
grateful to be able to feel close to my family through this loss even though we may be far away. RIP Apachan, we love and miss you ❤️
#6
Tom(Sunday, 05 April 2020 07:05)
Qui onques rien n'enprist riens n'achieva
I remember when I held your finger
I remember when I held your hand
I remember when you allowed me to steer the car from your lap
And then many years later when you first taught me how to actually drive a car
I remember you taught me English, Mathematics, and Science
I remember you helped me with my homework, projects, and exams
I remember you sneaked me into your office to learn how to use a computer
And then many years later when you taught me how to be clear, concise and precise
I remember when you taught me how to have fun
Play Board games and Card games, solve puzzles, and enjoy debate
Finesse the movements of Table tennis, Shuttle badminton, and Lawn tennis
And how to combine these skills with energy and foresight
I remember when you taught me manners, courtesy, friendship, and love
I remember when you taught me humility, respect, loyalty, and discipline
I remember when you taught me grit and gratitude, hope and optimism
And then many years later how to live with pride without ever being proud
You taught me how to be brave and fearless
You taught me how to be excited about every venture
You taught me how no venture was small
You then taught me how practice was fun because it helped make perfect
You taught me the worth of principles, beliefs, values, and even faith
You taught me how to approach life with the courage of conviction
You taught me how to defy age with a healthy mind and body
And then many years later that nothing ventured was nothing gained.
#7
MINNIE(Sunday, 05 April 2020 08:01)
Farewell my Dad of 97 years. You know not what of yourself you have left with me. Your towering strength, your knowledge and wisdom have helped me through many a crisis and also moulded me into the
individual I am today. It is with great thanks that I acknowledge that your body left this earth with minimal suffering. Please be certain that your 4 children will continue to look after Mum in the
same way that you did for so many years. Your life touched many places and people, so rest assured that even though your life ended , its texture remains.
I would like to dedicate these words to you, as this is how I see your life:
Do not pray for an easy life. Pray to be a stronger man. Do not pray for tasks equal to your powers. Pray for powers equal to your tasks! Then the doing of your work will be no miracle, but you shall
be the miracle.
#8
Vinu(Sunday, 05 April 2020 08:35)
Dear Dad,
Your life will remain an inspiration to your children, your grandchildren, and great-grandchildren by legend. You lead by example and inspired by encouragement.
Thank you for welcoming me to your family 40 years ago and for trusting me with your confidence unconditionally.
I will miss your strength and optimism.
But you will live on in the lives of all of us who
keep your memory alive.
love,
Vinu
#9
Rajan(Sunday, 05 April 2020 09:00)
Minnie first introduced me to dad on Delhi's railway station as a possible suitor. We hit it off well and I'm sure we maintained a respectful rapport from then. I quickly learnt to step aside from
his well guarded territory of expertises...be it planes buildings plumbing or bananas and of course dams. I'd proudly say I was on par with him on tennis and that's where I'd veer my conversation if
I found myself tongue tied.
The man was truly exceptional and I'm not reticent to say I've tried to instill several of his great qualities into myself and my kids.
I'm so sorry we weren't able to give him the wonderful send off he so deserved but his legend will live on amongst those it matters.
#10
Johan(Sunday, 05 April 2020 14:14)
Apachan had the best stories. From meeting Michael Jackson's wife to living in Kenya. Even if I'd heard them on more than one occasion, I'd listen closely as I was enamored by the life he lived. He
had an incredible heart and indomitable spirit. He was the most disciplined person I have ever met and can only hope I have some of it. Thanks for teaching me how to store bananas.
You will be missed.
#11
Jason(Sunday, 05 April 2020 16:22)
Appachen, you always seemed like a mystery to me, somehow even more grandiose than the stories you told us about your life. You always had an answer for any question I could ask and if you somehow
didn't, you made it clear that an answer, the correct answer, was out there for us to find and understand.
As I grew older it became clear how much of your and Ammachi's personalities had been passed down to Mom and the rest of the siblings. Your sense of respect for the pure pursuit of knowledge, your
dedication to always doing things the correct way without fail, and your ability to distill the complex into something simple was always astounding to me.
I wish we could have been able to be there to honor you in your passing but I can just imagine you chiding us for this "silly" behavior and would have counseled us that there's no point fretting over
something you can't control. Thank you for always putting everything in perspective and showing us the right way. We love you and miss you dearly, rest in peace Appachen.
#12
Geeta Skaria Philip(Tuesday, 07 April 2020 01:54)
To the One Who Lived Amongst the Clouds
The timeless beauty of a mountain range
The mesmerizing view of those snow-capped peaks
The burning glory of the glorious Sun
And, the brightest Star in the galaxy
The little boy blue who made it big
With a dream in his heart and a song in his beat
He ventured into spaces unmarked
Made bold new strides across the seas
Outlier, innovator, crusader all
He lived the explorer’s dream
Building a better future for us all
Lighting and leading the way
He lived till the grand old age
With dignity and humility
Graceful in his achievements
And, helpful to one and all
Dear Thomaskutty Chayan,
Thank you from the bottom of my heart for a life lived well, in all its grandeur and beauty. It was humbling reading about your adventures, your initial struggles and your achievements.
A warm hug for remembering your elder brother and my grand-dad for his small contribution in your life’s journey. It’s wonderful you lived it up and much more than his expectations. Enjoyed reading
about the escapades you had with my Mom and her sisters.
And, lastly, for love and concern you showered on my parents, and the many lives you touched.
Rest in Peace, loving one. You will remain in our hearts forever!
#13
Kandathil Jacob(Friday, 10 April 2020 23:05)
Remembering Our Dear Thomaskuttychayan
Just as Thomaskuttychayan, in his professional life, was an Advisor to several Governments on river dams, he served as an Advisor to members of the Nellatu Kandathil family. He relished this role and
was generous in offering advice on challenges we faced.
In my own case, most of the situations where I sought Thomaskuttychayan’s advice, involved Achacha (our father K.C.Koshy). They had both worked for the Central Government of India and government
pension was a common topic. Thomaskuttychayan made me aware of the special pension for those who were 80 years or older.
I was able to work with Achacha’s bank and collect arrears for some 4 years, which was a significant sum. Achacha was delighted to watch this extra pension grow all the way up to 50% bonus when he
turned 100 years old.
Another help from Thomaskuttychayan was his invaluable participation in the celebration of Achacha’s 90th birthday in Trivandrum. He was the one who suggested the venue, Muscat Hotel, and made all
the arrangements with them for the banquet hall, food, and audio-visual system. He also arranged rides for some elderly friends of Aayee (our mother Mary Koshy) and Achacha who were not capable of
making it to the event on their own.
This celebration was also significant to Aayee since it was her first visit to Kerala after being ill for a while. Thanks to Thomaskuttychayan’s tireless efforts, Aayee and Achacha were able to enjoy
a wonderful celebration with Achacha’s two brothers, other brother being Eapachayan, and their wives, along with several nephews and nieces from across Kerala and Chennai.
Thomaskuttychayan was a gem of an Uncle. We will miss him greatly. May his soul rest in peace.
Love,
Jacob & Cora
#14
Cora Jacob(Friday, 10 April 2020 23:14)
“Daughter”to My Achacha & My Thomaskuttychayan
Hello All. This is Cora, sharing Golden Memories on two Golden Brothers, my Achacha and my Thomaskuttychayan.
It was at my Achacha’s 90th birthday celebration, in Trivandrum, when I got a closer look at Thomaskuttychayan. He had strong convictions. When asked what he thought about the celebration, he replied
“It was nonsense and a waste of time to celebrate”. I quietly disagreed, and pressed him to name one positive thing that came off the celebration. He conceded that he was glad to see that Achacha had
a good time celebrating with so many family members.
I looked into the future for a different reaction from my Thomaskuttychayan.
I was blessed to see that future came true 10 years later and realized that the Golden Brothers have many things for me to discover.
My Thomaskuttychayan had no choice but to put up with me, because I was determined. Each time I visited Achacha in Mumbai, I gave Thomaskuttychayan a “check in call”.
Our short phone call was weird…”I’m home, Thomaskuttychayan”, his reply, “Good luck, take care of your stubborn Father”. Before I leave, our call went this way “I survived my visit and it was an
awesome visit”. His reply “Good-bye till next time”.
My Golden Achacha and Thomaskuttychayan put up with me, when I managed to organize a “phone chat” twice a week, Monday and Friday at 3:00 PM. These lasted sometimes 10 minutes, and at good moments,
15 minutes. Most of the times there were arguments and I will hear Thomaskuttychayan yelling “Give the phone to your Daughter”. For me that meant, tantrum succeeded. I would get on the phone with
Thomaskuttychayan and say “Till next time” and hang up. These times were “precious”, because a few days later, Achacha will share with me that he enjoyed their chat.
More of my “Blessed” moments came during my June 2015 visit to Mumbai. I was talking to Achacha about who he plans to invite for his 100th birthday on November 28 later that year. He named many
relatives and friends, and then asked if Thomaskuttychayan is coming. I said, “We’ll see”.
When I talked to Thomaskuttychayan about Achacha’s birthday plans, he had the same answer he gave me ten years ago, “These celebrations are nonsense, waste of time”. This time, I told him that I know
how much Achacha and him care for each other. Then I said, “That’s not really you, when you give those not so good comments. I heard you talked about Achacha and Aayee’s 50th wedding anniversary
celebration and Achacha’s 90th birthday with 3 brothers celebrating”. Then, he said “It was good that we made sure that those happy moments were celebrated”.
This 100th birthday was another moment that kept Achacha looking forward to being with Thomaskuttychayan. I finally convinced Thomaskuttychayan to greet Achacha via video message. We were both
excited with the idea, another time that I witnessed my Golden Thomaskuttychayan’s caring for Achacha.
The first birthday celebration was in the church and was led by His Grace Mar Coorlios, the Diocesan Metropolitan. The second was in our building with family members including our son Suresh, a few
neighbors and friends. We played a video where our cousins and their families in America and UK greeted Achacha. Then came the most special moment when I observed Achacha’s face light up when
Thomaskuttychayan’s birthday greeting via video started playing wherein he said “Thomaskutty and Ammini together wish you a very Happy Return of the day, 100th Birthday.”
When I shared these moments with Thomaskuttychayan, he said “Achacha deserved the church honor and your Father appreciates you, his “Daughter”, our“Daughter”.
Achacha and Thomaskuttychayan, thank you. Love from your “Daughter”
#15
Susan Eapen(Saturday, 11 April 2020 06:51)
Thomaskutty achayan was one of my favorite uncles. My memories go back several decades when I was a 10 year old and he came to Alleppey to live with us. We fought over mangoes, toilet time and
anything else that came our way. He came back from the US with milk powder which was an unknown commodity in India. Everyday at 6 pm he would heat water in a saucepan, mix the milk powder and serve a
glass of milk to Ammachy, Papa, Ithy, Lizzu and I. Thomaskutty achayan was very proud of the fact that he was able to do this for us. I was the only one he took when he went to watch movies and that
was one up on my two older sisters. We moved back to Trivandrum in the mid-nineties and have many happy memories of our time. He was Papa’s youngest brother and together with Ammachy considered him a
“son” rather than a younger brother.
Rest In Peace
#16
John Eapen(Saturday, 11 April 2020 06:58)
Thomaskutty achayan was someone I looked up to and a much loved uncle. In our younger days we spend several hours chatting, laughing and generally having a good time. I traveled to many places he was
at except Kenya and Bhutan because I was working in Nigeria. I will miss you
#17
Ben John, Varanasi(Saturday, 11 April 2020 07:11)
I have fond memories of Thomaskuttychayan starting from the time he was in Delhi. Even though he was my grand father, KC Mathew's youngest brother the name of kuttychayan stuck to him for our
generation. I admired him being an Engineer myself for what he achieved in his lifetime. He served the Nation with distinction as the National Water Commission Chairman amongst many other
services.
Pray for God's hand to be on the family especially Ammachi.
Love,
Benny
#18
Mary Eapen(Saturday, 11 April 2020 07:16)
I had a special relationship with Thomas Appachen. He appointed himself as my grandfather after Papa passed away. I have so many memories of him but most of all I remember his determination and his
optimism. He was in many ways like Papa who when I was a child taught me that I could succeed in whatever I chose to do so long as I was determined to succeed.
I will miss listening to your stories in your study. It was important to Papa that I get to know all his brothers and he did this himself. I got to know them and love them all. You filled in stories
that Papa didn’t.
I miss you Thomas Appachen. You will live on in my life just as Papa
#19
Renji K. Jacob(Monday, 13 April 2020 01:37)
I feel so helpless at this loss of a father figure especially for the Nellattu Kandathil family. A big prop has fallen down. But the shining lamp that he was, still gives us all light enough to plod
througout our lives. As for me Thomaskuttychayan was always an inspiration and encouragement in my career. A true sport he was always appreciative of my work. I would never forget the first
meaningful present I received from anyone in the family - the costly tennis racket that he thoughtfully gave me appreciating my weakness for sport. I would never forget his words to me "Renji, I want
you to help me when I m physically weak". I am happy to remember that I never failed him. I had made it a point to visit him without fail anytime I had been to Trivandrum, however hard pressed for
time I might have been. A blessed life has come to an end still being a blessing to all who came into contact with him. May his blessed soul enjoyed the peace that passeth all understanding,
comforting all his dear ones Ammini Kochamma and their children he has left behind.
With love and prayers,
Renji
#20
Mathew Kandathil(Baba)(Monday, 13 April 2020 07:04)
First a few comments about his autobiographical note.
"at my birth on June 29, 1922,my father was 52/53 and my mother was 45 years old"
Can you imagine a high risk pregnancy with no prenatal care and NICU etc. Luckily our grandmother had no still births and all the 10 siblings survived childhood illnesses, in the pre-vaccination and
pre--antibiotic era ! Her child bearing years lasted almost 3 decades with carefully planned 3 year intervals between each child.
"My father decided to build his own home in Nellattu because the Moolamuriyil house was overflowing"
Not before long, the Nellattu house was overflowing.
According to Annammakochamma's Babuchayan, at one time there were 33 "korandis" in the house as our grandparent's nephews(? nieces too)were staying there to attend the nearby Eraviperoor high
school.
"My mother Achamma is from Kozhimannil and from Mallapali"
The Kozhimannil family is from Karakkal near Thiruvalla.
My mother is from Mallappally and I knew one cousin of Valliammachi who looked like her and was from Kozhimannil.
FYI-There is also a Syro- Malabar Catholic Kozhimannil and Kandathil.
I remember Thomaskuttychayan reluctantly agreed to get blood work done which showed a very high LDL cholesterol like my father.He told me" Prescribe me the medication that you gave Kunjuttychayan."A
truly wise man.For once he did not look up wikipedia!
On one of his NYC trips while working for the UN, he came to New Jersey.I noticed some bloody discharge on his shirt.He had an infected sebaceous cyst which I incised,drained and packed in my
office.The next day he complained to Bina that it hurt him all night.
" I can add that he was the one and the only expert, there was no room for anyone else" Susan
Not so fast, as I would butt heads(like "muttmutt" with my granddaughter Abby) with him on any medical topic that he claimed expertise.I did tell him that he did not need surgery for pancreatitis
over 20 years ago which he did not appreciate.
In fact I have the unique experience of admonishing him for concluding wrongly about the cause of death of one of our relatives.
Many of our relatives would shudder to enter Thomaskuttychayan's flat as he would chew them out ,but rightfully so as they (spouses included) would talk utter nonsense.
When I saw him in October 2019,I did not think that it would be the last time.
He has joined his parents and his siblings in Heaven
#21
Shyam Lal(Monday, 13 April 2020 18:18)
He was Uncle Thomas to me when he wasn’t there, he was Dr. Thomas when he was. That was over 50 years ago, when he was in Roorkee with dear Aunty Thomas and children, our dear friends. While I met
him a few times afterwards in Simla and in Delhi, I was invariably a bit intimidated. I ask, why? He was a serious man, a very smart man, a man of action and not too many words, he was accomplished
and undaunted by challenge, he was one who held the bar high and expected you’d give it your best. I don’t think I reflected much of that In whom I was, certainly not then, but I so admired what it
stood for as well as whom he was. Just when I’d convince myself I didn’t stand up, he’d bring out that smile, which I still remember. It calmed me down and I sensed that he did not judge, or if he
did, that he still believed. I realize now that I was largely in awe and rightfully so. He was a giant of a man who made a lasting impression.
Later in life, I’ve stayed in touch with Jake, Susan and Minnie and their amazing families (Tom, we need to meet). I can say for sure that Uncle Thomas’s legacy lives on in each of them, different as
they are - smart, principled, loving and accomplished. While Uncle is now not amongst us, he is still very much there for me.
May he Rest In Peace. I am forever grateful for the beacon he was and is.
#22
Lila Thomas(Tuesday, 14 April 2020 07:39)
He was such an inspiration to the whole Nellattu kandathil family both by his professional accomplishments and his wonderful personality. Thomaskuttychayan was my fathers youngest brother and a
fatherly figure to me, Leelamamma and Renjichayan. I still remember those childhood days when Thomaskuttychayan, Kochamma, Jacob, Susan and Mini
and Tom used to visit us at Nelladu house once a year to stay with us, and these family reunions were really memorable ones.
When I had a desire to take medicine as my career choice, Thomaskuttychayan was among those few who motivated me and supported me throughout. His academic excellence and professional ethics had
inspired generations and I hope his life and his accomplishments will continue to inspire more in the years to come.
His love and care over the years would be missed by all of us
#23
O.C.Ninan(Friday, 17 April 2020 19:05)
I am Jacob and Mathew Kandathil's second cousin through their mother Marykutty. We have known Thomaskutty chayen also since 1956/ 1957 timeframe, when my father was with the Steel Ministry in New
Delhi. He also visited and stayed in our home in Durgapur, West Bengal, during an official visit to Calcutta, sometime in 1963 or so.
A very warm and loving person, who was an authority in his field. We will all miss him a lot, and may his dear soul Rest In Peace.
#24
Cheryl Thomas(Saturday, 18 April 2020 07:04)
Dr. K C Thomas, Thomaskuttychayan as he is fondly remembered, was my grandmother’s {Saramma
Peter) youngest brother. To most of us, including my father and his sisters he was their formidable
uncle,honest to goodness,dependable as a rock,matter of fact and never minced his words because
he spoke with authority about things he had read,experienced and was convinced about.
My first memories of Thomaskuttychayan and Amminikochma were of the times I would spend at
my aunt’s Kuravankonam house during vacations. When my aunt also an Aminnikochma, was unwell
remember that she would rely on Thomaskuttychayan for every problem she encountered. They
would even come and help her with her household accounting. So much so that he was the executor
of her will .When they were in better health one of them would call every two weeks to enquire of
my parents.
My husband, whose parents (M.M.Thomas) were close friends in Delhi, recalls day-spends as teens
in the ‘60s,at Thomaskuttychayan and Amminikochma’s house, how neat and clean it was, and also f
remembers the delicious cakes Amminikochma would bake.He was a disciplinarian too, he recalls
some hard admonishments he would hand out to Jacob. Thomaskuttychayan and Amminikochma
would come over occasionally for bridge sessions which were marked by very loud arguments after
every round..My in laws have showed me pieces of furniture which they told me, belonged to
Thomaskuttychyn and Amminikochma and given to them because they were going away to Bhutan,
and would rather have friends using them than selling them to strangers.
I recall some recent visits when Thomaskuttychyn would love to talk about old days and his
experiences while studying in the US, about his Kenya assignment for the UN and about my parents.
On some occasions if I happened to butt-in with some comment he would say, “You keep quiet let
me talk” Though I did not understand much of the technical stuff, he would try to simplify it and I
knew for sure that at he was up with the knowledge and the rules and regulations and brought his
considerable experience to the advice he offered.
Thomaskuttychayan and Amminikochma were pillars of strength to my aunt and he will be fondly
remembered .Mahesh,Nirmala my cousin and I visited them on 25th February 2020 when he told my
husband,” I was going to call you to find out why you hadn’t visited us for a while.”
Jacob,Susan ,Mini and Tommy our heartfelt condolences .Losing a loved one is hard but cherish the
memories you have of him.
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Lisa (Friday, 27 March 2020 15:28)
My dear Grandpa Thomas "The Great" passed away peacefully in India on 20th March 2020. He was an extraordinary man of the world and achieved so much during his 97 years that I could never sum up, and still sharp as a whip right to the end! His determination, education and passion allowed his children and grandchildren to have all the opportunities they could want in life.
We are so upset your huge family scattered all over the earth cant be with you in India to give you the send off you deserve during these crazy times. However your legacy will live on through all the generations.
RIP Appachan, we love and miss you ❤
Jake Thomas (Friday, 03 April 2020 21:57)
Dad,
You are a force of nature!
Your impact is far and wide.
You stood for what was right and what made sense.
Never compromised.
And that twinkle in your eye says it all: always ready to engage.
You were a good husband, caring for Mom when she needed you most.
And you were a good father, bringing us to where we are today.
We could not be more proud of you, Dad
Susan (Saturday, 04 April 2020 16:13)
While growing up I remember seeing this handy dandy tool kit that had been brought from America. It was no ordinary tool kit and Dad just loved his tools. We knew we could count on him to fix just about anything, a broken light fixture, the hairdryer that whined or to Super Glue the sole back on to the shoe. Now as I look back I see that he approached life with the same “Mr. Fixit “ attitude. He had a “Life Toolkit” filled with confidence, discipline, knowledge and wisdom. He faced the problems in his life with a winning attitude. He even relished being called upon by colleagues, neighbors, friends, and the homeowners association to help solve their problems. I can add that he was the one and the only expert, there was no room for anyone else!
Dad, we will miss you but we hope that you will guide us along with the wisdom of your words and the power of your actions.
Aaron Thomas Joseph (Saturday, 04 April 2020 16:20)
Appachen,
You are an inspiration to all of the Kandathil family. Whether it be your extremely sharp wit, your excellent memory that will certainly outlast you, your unfathomable desire to provide an answer, your ability to question everything respectfully, your kind heart, your unrelenting healthy walking & eating routines. We all would be so lucky to have these qualities, and lead the life you did with so much accomplishment.
Thank you for everything you did for Ammachy, Mom, Uncle Jacob, Auntie Minnie, and Uncle Tom. Your legacy lives on in them and they have kept you in heart and mind.
I am proud to be your grandson.
Natasha (Saturday, 04 April 2020 16:50)
My dearest Grandpa passed away at the ripe old age of 97. He lived such a long and fruitful life through which he impacted so many people. Being based in India, and with our family spread around the globe, we were unfortunately unable to travel to India to say our goodbyes to him during these extremely tough times... However technology has a wonderful way of pulling us all together. I am very grateful to be able to feel close to my family through this loss even though we may be far away. RIP Apachan, we love and miss you ❤️
Tom (Sunday, 05 April 2020 07:05)
Qui onques rien n'enprist riens n'achieva
I remember when I held your finger
I remember when I held your hand
I remember when you allowed me to steer the car from your lap
And then many years later when you first taught me how to actually drive a car
I remember you taught me English, Mathematics, and Science
I remember you helped me with my homework, projects, and exams
I remember you sneaked me into your office to learn how to use a computer
And then many years later when you taught me how to be clear, concise and precise
I remember when you taught me how to have fun
Play Board games and Card games, solve puzzles, and enjoy debate
Finesse the movements of Table tennis, Shuttle badminton, and Lawn tennis
And how to combine these skills with energy and foresight
I remember when you taught me manners, courtesy, friendship, and love
I remember when you taught me humility, respect, loyalty, and discipline
I remember when you taught me grit and gratitude, hope and optimism
And then many years later how to live with pride without ever being proud
You taught me how to be brave and fearless
You taught me how to be excited about every venture
You taught me how no venture was small
You then taught me how practice was fun because it helped make perfect
You taught me the worth of principles, beliefs, values, and even faith
You taught me how to approach life with the courage of conviction
You taught me how to defy age with a healthy mind and body
And then many years later that nothing ventured was nothing gained.
MINNIE (Sunday, 05 April 2020 08:01)
Farewell my Dad of 97 years. You know not what of yourself you have left with me. Your towering strength, your knowledge and wisdom have helped me through many a crisis and also moulded me into the individual I am today. It is with great thanks that I acknowledge that your body left this earth with minimal suffering. Please be certain that your 4 children will continue to look after Mum in the same way that you did for so many years. Your life touched many places and people, so rest assured that even though your life ended , its texture remains.
I would like to dedicate these words to you, as this is how I see your life:
Do not pray for an easy life. Pray to be a stronger man. Do not pray for tasks equal to your powers. Pray for powers equal to your tasks! Then the doing of your work will be no miracle, but you shall be the miracle.
Vinu (Sunday, 05 April 2020 08:35)
Dear Dad,
Your life will remain an inspiration to your children, your grandchildren, and great-grandchildren by legend. You lead by example and inspired by encouragement.
Thank you for welcoming me to your family 40 years ago and for trusting me with your confidence unconditionally.
I will miss your strength and optimism.
But you will live on in the lives of all of us who
keep your memory alive.
love,
Vinu
Rajan (Sunday, 05 April 2020 09:00)
Minnie first introduced me to dad on Delhi's railway station as a possible suitor. We hit it off well and I'm sure we maintained a respectful rapport from then. I quickly learnt to step aside from his well guarded territory of expertises...be it planes buildings plumbing or bananas and of course dams. I'd proudly say I was on par with him on tennis and that's where I'd veer my conversation if I found myself tongue tied.
The man was truly exceptional and I'm not reticent to say I've tried to instill several of his great qualities into myself and my kids.
I'm so sorry we weren't able to give him the wonderful send off he so deserved but his legend will live on amongst those it matters.
Johan (Sunday, 05 April 2020 14:14)
Apachan had the best stories. From meeting Michael Jackson's wife to living in Kenya. Even if I'd heard them on more than one occasion, I'd listen closely as I was enamored by the life he lived. He had an incredible heart and indomitable spirit. He was the most disciplined person I have ever met and can only hope I have some of it. Thanks for teaching me how to store bananas.
You will be missed.
Jason (Sunday, 05 April 2020 16:22)
Appachen, you always seemed like a mystery to me, somehow even more grandiose than the stories you told us about your life. You always had an answer for any question I could ask and if you somehow didn't, you made it clear that an answer, the correct answer, was out there for us to find and understand.
As I grew older it became clear how much of your and Ammachi's personalities had been passed down to Mom and the rest of the siblings. Your sense of respect for the pure pursuit of knowledge, your dedication to always doing things the correct way without fail, and your ability to distill the complex into something simple was always astounding to me.
I wish we could have been able to be there to honor you in your passing but I can just imagine you chiding us for this "silly" behavior and would have counseled us that there's no point fretting over something you can't control. Thank you for always putting everything in perspective and showing us the right way. We love you and miss you dearly, rest in peace Appachen.
Geeta Skaria Philip (Tuesday, 07 April 2020 01:54)
To the One Who Lived Amongst the Clouds
The timeless beauty of a mountain range
The mesmerizing view of those snow-capped peaks
The burning glory of the glorious Sun
And, the brightest Star in the galaxy
The little boy blue who made it big
With a dream in his heart and a song in his beat
He ventured into spaces unmarked
Made bold new strides across the seas
Outlier, innovator, crusader all
He lived the explorer’s dream
Building a better future for us all
Lighting and leading the way
He lived till the grand old age
With dignity and humility
Graceful in his achievements
And, helpful to one and all
Dear Thomaskutty Chayan,
Thank you from the bottom of my heart for a life lived well, in all its grandeur and beauty. It was humbling reading about your adventures, your initial struggles and your achievements.
A warm hug for remembering your elder brother and my grand-dad for his small contribution in your life’s journey. It’s wonderful you lived it up and much more than his expectations. Enjoyed reading about the escapades you had with my Mom and her sisters.
And, lastly, for love and concern you showered on my parents, and the many lives you touched.
Rest in Peace, loving one. You will remain in our hearts forever!
Kandathil Jacob (Friday, 10 April 2020 23:05)
Remembering Our Dear Thomaskuttychayan
Just as Thomaskuttychayan, in his professional life, was an Advisor to several Governments on river dams, he served as an Advisor to members of the Nellatu Kandathil family. He relished this role and was generous in offering advice on challenges we faced.
In my own case, most of the situations where I sought Thomaskuttychayan’s advice, involved Achacha (our father K.C.Koshy). They had both worked for the Central Government of India and government pension was a common topic. Thomaskuttychayan made me aware of the special pension for those who were 80 years or older.
I was able to work with Achacha’s bank and collect arrears for some 4 years, which was a significant sum. Achacha was delighted to watch this extra pension grow all the way up to 50% bonus when he turned 100 years old.
Another help from Thomaskuttychayan was his invaluable participation in the celebration of Achacha’s 90th birthday in Trivandrum. He was the one who suggested the venue, Muscat Hotel, and made all the arrangements with them for the banquet hall, food, and audio-visual system. He also arranged rides for some elderly friends of Aayee (our mother Mary Koshy) and Achacha who were not capable of making it to the event on their own.
This celebration was also significant to Aayee since it was her first visit to Kerala after being ill for a while. Thanks to Thomaskuttychayan’s tireless efforts, Aayee and Achacha were able to enjoy a wonderful celebration with Achacha’s two brothers, other brother being Eapachayan, and their wives, along with several nephews and nieces from across Kerala and Chennai.
Thomaskuttychayan was a gem of an Uncle. We will miss him greatly. May his soul rest in peace.
Love,
Jacob & Cora
Cora Jacob (Friday, 10 April 2020 23:14)
“Daughter”to My Achacha & My Thomaskuttychayan
Hello All. This is Cora, sharing Golden Memories on two Golden Brothers, my Achacha and my Thomaskuttychayan.
It was at my Achacha’s 90th birthday celebration, in Trivandrum, when I got a closer look at Thomaskuttychayan. He had strong convictions. When asked what he thought about the celebration, he replied “It was nonsense and a waste of time to celebrate”. I quietly disagreed, and pressed him to name one positive thing that came off the celebration. He conceded that he was glad to see that Achacha had a good time celebrating with so many family members.
I looked into the future for a different reaction from my Thomaskuttychayan.
I was blessed to see that future came true 10 years later and realized that the Golden Brothers have many things for me to discover.
My Thomaskuttychayan had no choice but to put up with me, because I was determined. Each time I visited Achacha in Mumbai, I gave Thomaskuttychayan a “check in call”.
Our short phone call was weird…”I’m home, Thomaskuttychayan”, his reply, “Good luck, take care of your stubborn Father”. Before I leave, our call went this way “I survived my visit and it was an awesome visit”. His reply “Good-bye till next time”.
My Golden Achacha and Thomaskuttychayan put up with me, when I managed to organize a “phone chat” twice a week, Monday and Friday at 3:00 PM. These lasted sometimes 10 minutes, and at good moments, 15 minutes. Most of the times there were arguments and I will hear Thomaskuttychayan yelling “Give the phone to your Daughter”. For me that meant, tantrum succeeded. I would get on the phone with Thomaskuttychayan and say “Till next time” and hang up. These times were “precious”, because a few days later, Achacha will share with me that he enjoyed their chat.
More of my “Blessed” moments came during my June 2015 visit to Mumbai. I was talking to Achacha about who he plans to invite for his 100th birthday on November 28 later that year. He named many relatives and friends, and then asked if Thomaskuttychayan is coming. I said, “We’ll see”.
When I talked to Thomaskuttychayan about Achacha’s birthday plans, he had the same answer he gave me ten years ago, “These celebrations are nonsense, waste of time”. This time, I told him that I know how much Achacha and him care for each other. Then I said, “That’s not really you, when you give those not so good comments. I heard you talked about Achacha and Aayee’s 50th wedding anniversary celebration and Achacha’s 90th birthday with 3 brothers celebrating”. Then, he said “It was good that we made sure that those happy moments were celebrated”.
This 100th birthday was another moment that kept Achacha looking forward to being with Thomaskuttychayan. I finally convinced Thomaskuttychayan to greet Achacha via video message. We were both excited with the idea, another time that I witnessed my Golden Thomaskuttychayan’s caring for Achacha.
The first birthday celebration was in the church and was led by His Grace Mar Coorlios, the Diocesan Metropolitan. The second was in our building with family members including our son Suresh, a few neighbors and friends. We played a video where our cousins and their families in America and UK greeted Achacha. Then came the most special moment when I observed Achacha’s face light up when Thomaskuttychayan’s birthday greeting via video started playing wherein he said “Thomaskutty and Ammini together wish you a very Happy Return of the day, 100th Birthday.”
When I shared these moments with Thomaskuttychayan, he said “Achacha deserved the church honor and your Father appreciates you, his “Daughter”, our“Daughter”.
Achacha and Thomaskuttychayan, thank you. Love from your “Daughter”
Susan Eapen (Saturday, 11 April 2020 06:51)
Thomaskutty achayan was one of my favorite uncles. My memories go back several decades when I was a 10 year old and he came to Alleppey to live with us. We fought over mangoes, toilet time and anything else that came our way. He came back from the US with milk powder which was an unknown commodity in India. Everyday at 6 pm he would heat water in a saucepan, mix the milk powder and serve a glass of milk to Ammachy, Papa, Ithy, Lizzu and I. Thomaskutty achayan was very proud of the fact that he was able to do this for us. I was the only one he took when he went to watch movies and that was one up on my two older sisters. We moved back to Trivandrum in the mid-nineties and have many happy memories of our time. He was Papa’s youngest brother and together with Ammachy considered him a “son” rather than a younger brother.
Rest In Peace
John Eapen (Saturday, 11 April 2020 06:58)
Thomaskutty achayan was someone I looked up to and a much loved uncle. In our younger days we spend several hours chatting, laughing and generally having a good time. I traveled to many places he was at except Kenya and Bhutan because I was working in Nigeria. I will miss you
Ben John, Varanasi (Saturday, 11 April 2020 07:11)
I have fond memories of Thomaskuttychayan starting from the time he was in Delhi. Even though he was my grand father, KC Mathew's youngest brother the name of kuttychayan stuck to him for our generation. I admired him being an Engineer myself for what he achieved in his lifetime. He served the Nation with distinction as the National Water Commission Chairman amongst many other services.
Pray for God's hand to be on the family especially Ammachi.
Love,
Benny
Mary Eapen (Saturday, 11 April 2020 07:16)
I had a special relationship with Thomas Appachen. He appointed himself as my grandfather after Papa passed away. I have so many memories of him but most of all I remember his determination and his optimism. He was in many ways like Papa who when I was a child taught me that I could succeed in whatever I chose to do so long as I was determined to succeed.
I will miss listening to your stories in your study. It was important to Papa that I get to know all his brothers and he did this himself. I got to know them and love them all. You filled in stories that Papa didn’t.
I miss you Thomas Appachen. You will live on in my life just as Papa
Renji K. Jacob (Monday, 13 April 2020 01:37)
I feel so helpless at this loss of a father figure especially for the Nellattu Kandathil family. A big prop has fallen down. But the shining lamp that he was, still gives us all light enough to plod througout our lives. As for me Thomaskuttychayan was always an inspiration and encouragement in my career. A true sport he was always appreciative of my work. I would never forget the first meaningful present I received from anyone in the family - the costly tennis racket that he thoughtfully gave me appreciating my weakness for sport. I would never forget his words to me "Renji, I want you to help me when I m physically weak". I am happy to remember that I never failed him. I had made it a point to visit him without fail anytime I had been to Trivandrum, however hard pressed for time I might have been. A blessed life has come to an end still being a blessing to all who came into contact with him. May his blessed soul enjoyed the peace that passeth all understanding, comforting all his dear ones Ammini Kochamma and their children he has left behind.
With love and prayers,
Renji
Mathew Kandathil(Baba) (Monday, 13 April 2020 07:04)
First a few comments about his autobiographical note.
"at my birth on June 29, 1922,my father was 52/53 and my mother was 45 years old"
Can you imagine a high risk pregnancy with no prenatal care and NICU etc. Luckily our grandmother had no still births and all the 10 siblings survived childhood illnesses, in the pre-vaccination and pre--antibiotic era ! Her child bearing years lasted almost 3 decades with carefully planned 3 year intervals between each child.
"My father decided to build his own home in Nellattu because the Moolamuriyil house was overflowing"
Not before long, the Nellattu house was overflowing.
According to Annammakochamma's Babuchayan, at one time there were 33 "korandis" in the house as our grandparent's nephews(? nieces too)were staying there to attend the nearby Eraviperoor high school.
"My mother Achamma is from Kozhimannil and from Mallapali"
The Kozhimannil family is from Karakkal near Thiruvalla.
My mother is from Mallappally and I knew one cousin of Valliammachi who looked like her and was from Kozhimannil.
FYI-There is also a Syro- Malabar Catholic Kozhimannil and Kandathil.
I remember Thomaskuttychayan reluctantly agreed to get blood work done which showed a very high LDL cholesterol like my father.He told me" Prescribe me the medication that you gave Kunjuttychayan."A truly wise man.For once he did not look up wikipedia!
On one of his NYC trips while working for the UN, he came to New Jersey.I noticed some bloody discharge on his shirt.He had an infected sebaceous cyst which I incised,drained and packed in my office.The next day he complained to Bina that it hurt him all night.
" I can add that he was the one and the only expert, there was no room for anyone else" Susan
Not so fast, as I would butt heads(like "muttmutt" with my granddaughter Abby) with him on any medical topic that he claimed expertise.I did tell him that he did not need surgery for pancreatitis over 20 years ago which he did not appreciate.
In fact I have the unique experience of admonishing him for concluding wrongly about the cause of death of one of our relatives.
Many of our relatives would shudder to enter Thomaskuttychayan's flat as he would chew them out ,but rightfully so as they (spouses included) would talk utter nonsense.
When I saw him in October 2019,I did not think that it would be the last time.
He has joined his parents and his siblings in Heaven
Shyam Lal (Monday, 13 April 2020 18:18)
He was Uncle Thomas to me when he wasn’t there, he was Dr. Thomas when he was. That was over 50 years ago, when he was in Roorkee with dear Aunty Thomas and children, our dear friends. While I met him a few times afterwards in Simla and in Delhi, I was invariably a bit intimidated. I ask, why? He was a serious man, a very smart man, a man of action and not too many words, he was accomplished and undaunted by challenge, he was one who held the bar high and expected you’d give it your best. I don’t think I reflected much of that In whom I was, certainly not then, but I so admired what it stood for as well as whom he was. Just when I’d convince myself I didn’t stand up, he’d bring out that smile, which I still remember. It calmed me down and I sensed that he did not judge, or if he did, that he still believed. I realize now that I was largely in awe and rightfully so. He was a giant of a man who made a lasting impression.
Later in life, I’ve stayed in touch with Jake, Susan and Minnie and their amazing families (Tom, we need to meet). I can say for sure that Uncle Thomas’s legacy lives on in each of them, different as they are - smart, principled, loving and accomplished. While Uncle is now not amongst us, he is still very much there for me.
May he Rest In Peace. I am forever grateful for the beacon he was and is.
Lila Thomas (Tuesday, 14 April 2020 07:39)
He was such an inspiration to the whole Nellattu kandathil family both by his professional accomplishments and his wonderful personality. Thomaskuttychayan was my fathers youngest brother and a fatherly figure to me, Leelamamma and Renjichayan. I still remember those childhood days when Thomaskuttychayan, Kochamma, Jacob, Susan and Mini
and Tom used to visit us at Nelladu house once a year to stay with us, and these family reunions were really memorable ones.
When I had a desire to take medicine as my career choice, Thomaskuttychayan was among those few who motivated me and supported me throughout. His academic excellence and professional ethics had inspired generations and I hope his life and his accomplishments will continue to inspire more in the years to come.
His love and care over the years would be missed by all of us
O.C.Ninan (Friday, 17 April 2020 19:05)
I am Jacob and Mathew Kandathil's second cousin through their mother Marykutty. We have known Thomaskutty chayen also since 1956/ 1957 timeframe, when my father was with the Steel Ministry in New Delhi. He also visited and stayed in our home in Durgapur, West Bengal, during an official visit to Calcutta, sometime in 1963 or so.
A very warm and loving person, who was an authority in his field. We will all miss him a lot, and may his dear soul Rest In Peace.
Cheryl Thomas (Saturday, 18 April 2020 07:04)
Dr. K C Thomas, Thomaskuttychayan as he is fondly remembered, was my grandmother’s {Saramma
Peter) youngest brother. To most of us, including my father and his sisters he was their formidable
uncle,honest to goodness,dependable as a rock,matter of fact and never minced his words because
he spoke with authority about things he had read,experienced and was convinced about.
My first memories of Thomaskuttychayan and Amminikochma were of the times I would spend at
my aunt’s Kuravankonam house during vacations. When my aunt also an Aminnikochma, was unwell
remember that she would rely on Thomaskuttychayan for every problem she encountered. They
would even come and help her with her household accounting. So much so that he was the executor
of her will .When they were in better health one of them would call every two weeks to enquire of
my parents.
My husband, whose parents (M.M.Thomas) were close friends in Delhi, recalls day-spends as teens
in the ‘60s,at Thomaskuttychayan and Amminikochma’s house, how neat and clean it was, and also f
remembers the delicious cakes Amminikochma would bake.He was a disciplinarian too, he recalls
some hard admonishments he would hand out to Jacob. Thomaskuttychayan and Amminikochma
would come over occasionally for bridge sessions which were marked by very loud arguments after
every round..My in laws have showed me pieces of furniture which they told me, belonged to
Thomaskuttychyn and Amminikochma and given to them because they were going away to Bhutan,
and would rather have friends using them than selling them to strangers.
I recall some recent visits when Thomaskuttychyn would love to talk about old days and his
experiences while studying in the US, about his Kenya assignment for the UN and about my parents.
On some occasions if I happened to butt-in with some comment he would say, “You keep quiet let
me talk” Though I did not understand much of the technical stuff, he would try to simplify it and I
knew for sure that at he was up with the knowledge and the rules and regulations and brought his
considerable experience to the advice he offered.
Thomaskuttychayan and Amminikochma were pillars of strength to my aunt and he will be fondly
remembered .Mahesh,Nirmala my cousin and I visited them on 25th February 2020 when he told my
husband,” I was going to call you to find out why you hadn’t visited us for a while.”
Jacob,Susan ,Mini and Tommy our heartfelt condolences .Losing a loved one is hard but cherish the
memories you have of him.